Just say no, or how I learnedthe importance of setting boundaries and living life without guilt!

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Why is it so hard to say “no?” The word “no” was our first form of discipline. We were definitely taught the meaning of “no” in our childhoods, but when we became adults, the word “no” became extinct in our vocabularies (unless we used it to discipline our own children). How interesting that as children, [...]

Having a Plan to take care of yourself!

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I have developed a new motto by which to live my life. “Take care of yourself and have a plan” has also become the watchword of my counseling practice. For the past two years, my husband and I have experienced financial letdowns and disillusionment from trusting people we thought had our best interests in mind. [...]

Does your relationship require an attitude adjustment?

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When a relationship ends, husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, parents and children are all impacted by the toxicity that has developed within the relationship. It seems that everyone (even the individual wanting to end the relationship) is overcome with feelings of sadness, anger, guilt and confusion. After all, we commit to one another in [...]

Do you know if your child is suffering from anxiety or depression?

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Jeff is the star player on his high school baseball team. He feels that he must win at any cost and believes that this is what his coach and his parents expect of him. Jeff is fifteen years old and he smokes marijuana. Julie worries that something bad is going to happen to her mother, [...]

The Three Prerequisites for Parenthood: Understanding, Creativity and a Sense of Humor!

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It’s okay to use humor in parenting. Parents don’t have to be drill sergeants and the home atmosphere doesn’t have to reflect a “boot camp!” Children respond so much better to positive reinforcement!

THE HOLIDAY SEASON: A TIME OF JOY OR A TIME FOR THE BLUES?!

As a child growing up in Michigan, the onset of chilly days with warm breath blowing frosty white puffs in the air, and changing maple leaves turning from emerald green to fiery golds, reds and oranges signaled the start of the holiday season. Indian Summer (a brief time of unseasonably warm temperatures) and Labor Day [...]

HOW TO HELP OUR CHILDREN COPE WITH TRAGEDY

I was 11 years old, sitting in my fifth grade class in Detroit, Michigan at Louis Pasteur Elementary School. My teacher shushed us as the principal’s voice came over the loud speaker informing us that President Kennedy was shot. Our class sat in stunned silence, and then as the reality of the principal’s words took [...]

Laughter Heals and is Good for the Soul!

Do you remember the last time you laughed? I don’t mean that little snicker or a brief guffaw. I mean the kind of laughter that starts from your toes, moves all the way up your body until your sides ache. I mean the kind of laughter that involves muscles you haven’t moved or used in [...]

A Sight for Sore Eyes and Diminished Spirits

There are certain “sights” in this world that seem to calm frazzled nerves, refresh the soul and give peace of mind. For some people, it is beautiful scenery – majestic mountains, the glorious colors of autumn leaves, or a cascading waterfall. For others, it can be ocean waves and sandy beaches, a calm lake, or [...]

How to help kids at school without overparenting

As kids head back to school, familiar problems have a way of emerging. How are you going to react to their first conflict with teachers, fight with their friends, panic about an upcoming test, or team tryout?

Will you be too hot, too cold or just right, like the porridge in Goldilocks and the Three Bears?Here’s some advice on these three styles of parenting from Leslie Kuerbitz of Garland. Kuerbitz has seen it all, from the perspective of being a licensed professional counselor and as an intensely involved mother, who admits she tended to veer toward the “hot” parenting mode.